Personally, after such weeks, I feel almost burnt out and think, “Why am I doing this? I’m not getting paid for this.” Do you ever feel the same way after weeks like the ones mentioned above? If you do, what do you to counter it? How do you keep going? Do you take a break from posts after that, or do you just “soldier on”?
Or if you don’t feel burnt out after such weeks, why not? Also why are you a book blogger? From what I’ve seen and experienced, it’s certainly not the fame or the glory that you get. So what is it? Why? Why? Why?
Believe it or not but I’ve never thought “Why am I doing this? I’m not getting paid for this.” I used to itch to talk about books I have tried to talk to people around me and if you don’t like books as much, there is only a little you can listen to. Even now, although my younger sister reads books, she will never listen to me rant about a particular book. ‘What if I want to read it in the future?’ is what she says even if I don’t give spoilers. So my blog is the only place where I get to talk about books. That’s more incentive than I need.
After weeks like BBAW I feel even more energized to keep doing what I do because then you also feel more like a part of a community larger than you ever expected. It’s fun.
I think this is the perfect opportunity to say what I wanted to say for some time.
None of my friends or family about this blog, only J (my would-be husband 🙂 ) and my younger sister. And although J thinks I’m doing a good job with the blog, he doesn’t read much, so reading this blog for him is like reading books on Finance is for me, lol.
Friends won’t understand my need to blog. For them reading 1 book a month would mean they are voracious readers. So they wouldn’t get it. My blog is almost a refuge for me, a place where I can be myself. When I tell people I read “only” 50 books last year, they would definitely understand the “only” part of it even if they don’t agree with it.
You might have noticed that my blog does not have my name on it anywhere. No, Violet is not my name. VioletCrush is a random name I picked when I shifted my blog from 20six platform to WordPress. There was no other name available that I could think of and I liked the sound of VioletCrush. For those whom I have had contact via email, no, my name is not Eliza either.
Let me explain.
It was 11th July 2006 and I was getting bored in the office with no work. I used to read a few non-book blogs for timepass and in the moment of extreme boredom I thought why not open my own blog. And I did. I didn’t want to continue with it but people started commenting and then I just kept blogging about everything under the sun. I blogged a lot about my personal life. So it didn’t make sense to reveal my identity considering how private and reserved I am. I worked in a call center once and our client was AT&T wireless which was a US based company. So we had to change our work names to American names. I picked Eliza and the email id that I currently have. I used the email id for the blog and I didn’t find any reason to disclose my identity.
A year into blogging and a couple of my friends discovered my blog. I really wasn’t comfortable blogging anymore. So I shifted to WordPress and changed the name of my blog. I kept the email id. Then I started book blogging. And I then started corresponding with authors, publicists and publishers. I never gave my real name and people assumed my name was Eliza. I did clarify it to people who asked…usually. But generally I just didn’t bother. It was too much of a hassle to explain.
I was really paranoid too. I guess mostly it was just due to habit. On certain occasions I commented with my real name by mistake. Once I made some lame excuse of commenting from the wrong Id (sorry don’t remember which blog) but usually I just let it go. But I don’t really think I need to keep my blog private anymore, I don’t blog about my personal life as much as I used to. But…I don’t want to. This is my private place, my refuge and I want to keep it that way.
For those who already know my real name, I’m glad and relieved. I would love it if you address me with my real name in mails or private messages. But on this blog I would prefer to be called Violet or VioletCrush 🙂 I hope you don’t mind 🙂
For that reason alone I am changing my email address, so that I don’t confuse people anymore. My new id is violetc dot books at gmail dot com. My old email address will still work; I will direct all my mails to the new one. So no worries there. I will use my real name to correspond via emails from now on.
Finally…I just can’t keep it short, can I?…Thank you from the bottom of my heart for tolerating my rant and accepting me regardless of my name 🙂
What about you? Is anyone else like me? Do your family and friends know about your blog?
Thanks for sharing with us, Violet! 🙂 I totally understand about not revealing your name and not sharing your personal life on your blog, after all I don’t talk much about my personal life either. We blog for many reasons, and of course not forgetting we also blog for ourselves. So, there is no need to feel bad about this.
For me, only my husband and a few friends knew about my blog, but I’m happy that way. 😛
Thanks Melody, I’m glad you understand 🙂
Although I use my real name but I keep my private life very private. I only reveal what I want to. I am not paranoid though. I am not really bothered if my family or friends know about both my blogs.
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Hey just curious, how do you explain all the book packages that come to your house 🙂
ahhha! That was a long one 😛
I actualy have thought about “asking” you your name and all that 😛 but rehne do :)!
Well I dnt know.. i never thought of it.. i wis i would have kept a different name and different identity and all that..but 😦
my husband knows and so does my younger sis and somefriends.. that’s all.. but none of them check :).of course hubby checks once in a while 🙂 when i want him to read something that is 😀
it is ok… i like yur name actually.. i like calling you violet 😉
I’m making a big deal out of it, hai na?
But I really don’t want to give my name on my blog and risk even 1% chance of anyone finding out 🙂
The friends because of whom I had shifted my blog told me they google for my new blog but didn’t find anything, which was weird considering I didn’t put my name on the previous blog too 🙂
Most of the blogger friends who correspond with me via emails know my real name 🙂
Oops.. I do know who you are [well only by name :D] but yes, I agree and respect your space 🙂
Chalo will chat more later.. we should do coffee sometime, me you and my wifey.. it would be good to meet once before the wedding! 🙂
I’m in Aundh, and I think you have my number.. catch me any time! 🙂
yes, meeting up is definitely overdue. I’ll get in touch.
Remember you mailed to to ask my new blog, I was so sure you were one of my friends trying to find out my new blog that I spend almost half an hour on your blog trying to find out any links,lol. Crazy, right?
Haha yes.. I’d come to your space while looking for twist n tales or some book by mamang dai.. or both 😀
And yes, you left a comment, asked me a bunch of questions, etc before letting me in on it 🙂
It’s totally understandable that you’d want some privacy. Whenever I see pictures of you now I just think of you as ‘Violet’ so I can’t imagine how it would be if I knew your real name. I was the same when I started – I wanted some privacy and hid myself behind the name of my favourite poem – Lady Lazarus – but in the end so many people who commented knew my real name that I just changed it. I like ‘Violet Crush’ – I always assumed it was some kind of pseudonym, and I think it suits you. 😀
Thanks Ceri, I’m so used to the name myself that I can’t think of anything else for my blog, even my real name 🙂
I completely understand your desire for privacy! I very much DON’T want people I know in real life reading my blog either, with the exception of my boyfriend. The only reason why I don’t mind telling people my real name is that it’s too common for people to be able to trace me via google.
Exactly, Google can find out anything for you…that is exactly why I don’t mind people knowing my real name but it’s important not to use it anywhere here.
I’ve told many of my real life friends about my blog, and frankly, most of them just aren’t interested and don’t get it.
Thank you for the explanation. I completely understand your desire for anonymity. I use my real first name on my blog, but I don’t have much personal information on there – it is all about books! I’ve always known your name wasn’t Violet and am quite used to bloggers having two names – it only gets confusing when you meet them in person and keep calling them by their online name!
My friends and family can’t understand my reading/blogging habits either, so I know exactly what you mean about being able to openly talk about your book addiction. It is so nice to know we’re not alone!
I never thought about meeting people in real life and calling them with their online name, that would be funny and confusing 🙂
None of my real-life friends are avid readers, either, and I’m just like you – I love talking about the latest good book I’m reading! I totally respect your desire for privacy – and I love the name VioletCrush!
Thank you for sharing, Violet! I completely understand how you want to keep your blog as your refuge.
My parents and friends know that I blog (how could they not? I only locked myself in my room for Bloggiesta and BBAW), but they don’t really care. I do have a personal blog where I whine about stuff, but not very often. 🙂
My family knows about my blog, but I am 95% sure they’ve never visited. My brother doesn’t like to read, my mom reads only mysteries, and my dad doesn’t really know how to use a computer. I guess I am safe from their view then. A few of my friends know about it as well, but I don’t really care if they look at it. I am sure most of them don’t. 🙂
I understand the need for anonymity in blogs. But, then somehow, I felt that I want to blog with my real name. Most of my friends and colleagues know about my blog, and they do visit it occasionally.
I started my blog mostly as a personal one. However, my love for reading started to take over, and now I have started including plenty of book reviews as well. Most of my friends and family don’t visit my blog that often simply because they are not avid readers.
This is the first time I am visiting your blog. Love your book reviews, and looking forward to reading more 🙂
Glad you got cleared up 🙂
I am glad you let us know which name you prefer us to use. It’s hard to know sometimes with so many of us having both nicknames and “real” names. My in-person friends and family do not know about my blog–well most of them. It’s not a big secret–not really. They could find me easily enough if they look. But I haven’t exactly told anyone about my blog either. Like you, my book blog is my refuge. I do use my real name. At least the name I use personally (not professionally–although it wouldn’t be that hard to figure out). Sometimes I regret that. Anyhow, all this to say, I understand where you are coming from and support your decision (as if you need my approval). 🙂
I see where you’re coming from and your point of view on this. I share my life with readers because I feel that it is only good that I let people in into my personal life. Book bloggers have many interesting aspects to their lives. While I share mine, I don’t disclose private information and I certainly respect other people’s privacy on my blog.
People do or don’t do certain things for many reasons. I respect your decision to what you think best fit your situation.
I prefer anonymity in my blog too. I don’t talk much about myself, and I don’t put my real name anywhere, except in some correspondence. I haven’t told anyone about my blogging, people sometimes see me writing posts and this find out. Most of my friends don’t get why I blog about books; they think it would be more fun if I blogged about college life and gossip and all. They don’t get it, and I’m not interested in explaining. And I’m a little paranoid about privacy too. You keep hearing all these stories about how some full-disclosure blogger got all his/her personal information stolen and put up for sale, and I don’t want all that.
Ha! My name isn’t Beth Fish, so I totally understand the desire for privacy.
Really interesting post! I don’t really make a big deal out of my blog with my personal life, but a few close friends and family know I do it. I’m not sure how many of them, aside from my sister who I do co-reviews with, actually spend much time reading it. But I try not to mention my personal life too much on the blog — mostly because I wouldn’t want to write about people who would feel weird being written about online.
I do bring it up for work sort of things, since I’m trying to get into journalism and showing that you know how to blog helps with all of that. I tried to keep my last name private, but when I link to articles I’ve written it shows up. So I suppose someone who wanted to find me would be able to.
You’ve given a lot to think about in this post. I’m one of those who tends to be a little more open on my blog, but it wasn’t always that way. When I first started blogging I took the name bookaholic but I didn’t like the negative connotations and I didn’t like when people referred to me as bookaholic. So Trish it is. I love the name Violet and like many of the others have said, I’ve come to associate you with that name. Even a nickname can become part of your identity (like my twitter name Trinicapini…a childhood nickname).
I often wonder if I post too much about me but I’ve come to think of many bloggers are close friends in a respect, so it feels natural. Of course there are some things that don’t need to be said!! I don’t really hide the fact that I blog to people I know in real life, but I don’t talk about it often. For some reason it’s always a disappointment to me when people aren’t interested, so why bother?
By the way, BBAW energizes me, too. As does the read-a-thon.
I so totally understand. We all feel the need to write, what can be shared and what can’t – the spaces have to be kept distinct. My own personal blog is a bit out of reach.